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Stay in Your Process

by Ogechi Nwobia
July 18, 2019
in Lifemathics
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Two years ago, I began a journey to obtain a law degree in a foreign university and right now, I can honestly say it’s one of the most challenging things I have ever done but I enjoyed every single moment of it- ish.
Let me explain. There were days I got tired of studying. Days where I just said “come and read book is not come and die” and I tuned off from studying or doing anything remotely academically related. There were nights I kept vigil at the library, battled assignment deadlines and struggled to memorize tons of case law in preparation for exams. There were also days where I battled terrible lows and just disconnected from the world because in the famous words of Erin, “I just can’t do life today.”
I think every student can relate to this. But this post isn’t necessarily about going to school and obtaining a degree. This post is about staying in your process, regardless of what journey you’re undertaking.
I use the phrase ‘stay in your process’ a whole lot. And my close friends are more than familiar with it by now because anytime one of them is going through a rough patch in any endeavor, I remind them that it is all part of arriving at the big picture. Nobody likes unpleasantness, so if we have our way, we would get through storms in a flash and soak in the sun for days unending.
If we had our way, we would not have fights with loved ones, we would not encounter difficulties in business, we would not fail exams or essays, we would not make mistakes… In fact, we would not entertain any bit of difficulty whatsoever.
But here’s what I want to share with you today. On the journey to achieving your dreams, you will go through a breaking and making process. Own it and stay in it. When potential investors bury your proposal under a heap of others gathering dust in their office, stay in your process of building. When you fail that course you studied so hard for, stay in your process of building. When you have that fight with your new lover, stay in your process of building, when you hit that brick wall in that product you’re developing, stay in your process of building, when you get rejected by that publisher, stay in your process of building. When your blog gets very minimal hits in the first few months of running it, stay in your process of building.  When you lose that online or offline competition, stay in your process of building. When you pull a muscle while training for a marathon, stay in your process of building. When you fall off the fitfam train on your weight loss journey, stay in your process of building.
Challenges are an opportunity to build capacity. It’s why I welcome them. But truth remains, some days I am too tired to fight and I just want a smooth sailing. So this is as much for myself as it is for everyone else. And just so we have a permanent reminder, Romans 5:3-4 (NLT)

“We can rejoice too when we run into problems and trials, for we know that they help us develop endurance. And endurance develops strength of character and character strengthens our confident hope of salvation”

I completed my 2 year program and now have a law degree. 

But I don’t in any way think it’s the end of the journey. Naah. I am quite ambitious so there are many more dreams and goals ahead. But I am determined to own my process and stay in it, no matter how rough the roads get. Success is a never ending journey which is why Paul says he forgets those things which he has attained, and keeps reaching forward for something higher ahead of him.
So here’s to you and your journey. Your roads may be rough, but may you remain resilient, steadfast and immoveable, always abounding in your hustle, knowing that your persistence and capacity will be rewarded with sweet, sweet success.
Have a fantastic Tuesday!
@Oge_writes

Ogechi Nwobia

Ogechi Nwobia

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Comments 32

  1. favouriteshades says:
    8 years ago

    Congrats Oge. ….that look of pure joy on your face ….my God
    now where did I get the impression you were obtaining a medical degree or something along that line……

    Reply
    • Ogechi Nwobia says:
      8 years ago

      Hahaha!! Medicine ke? Naaaaah. I’m not graced for that biko.
      Thank you so much!

      Reply
  2. Mariam says:
    8 years ago

    This is for me Oge. Last year I left my comfort zone and moved to begin a second degree in another city with my hubbys encouragement and support. I had my second baby along the way resumed work and I was finding it difficult to cope with school, work and two children but with my moms support I was able to find a balance. I lost my mom three weeks ago, my first semester exams are barely two weeks away and I’m at my wits end. This write up came at the nick of time and hopefully I will STAY IN MY PROCESS. I can’t say I’m not tempted to quit but I know I’ll be letting myself down and also the people that believe in me. Thanks for this piece and a big CONGRATULATIONS!

    Reply
    • Ogechi Nwobia says:
      8 years ago

      Mariam!! You precious amazon of a woman!!! You stay strong mama, you’ve got this!!
      You are building capacity and you will come out a lot more fortified and resilient than you ever imagined possible. As it stands, you are doing the impossible and I am so excited for you! Be encouraged mama na. Your mum would be so proud.
      And we won’t stop believing in you. You will make it through.
      Hugggggsss!
      And thank you 🙂

      Reply
  3. whamhydhe says:
    8 years ago

    Congrats Oge!!!

    Reply
    • Ogechi Nwobia says:
      8 years ago

      Thanks Whamhydhe ❤️

      Reply
  4. bridget queen B says:
    8 years ago

    Congratz once again girl.. i can attest to the struggles and challenges . But through it all you made it. .hes not done with you yet this just the beginning …
    p.s firsttttttttt time visitorrrrrrrrr LOL

    Reply
    • Ogechi Nwobia says:
      8 years ago

      Yay!!!!!! *cling cling!!* that’s me ringing the bell for you as a first timer. Welcome aboard. And thank you boo!❤️

      Reply
  5. Koko M says:
    8 years ago

    Bless you for this.
    A few days ago I had reached breaking point in my career and was willing to close that chapter and just run. But your testimony has given me hope. Thank you.

    Reply
    • Ogechi Nwobia says:
      8 years ago

      Hugsssss! Sending you loads and loads of warm eHugs. It gets hard. Honestly. It really does. But we stay strong through it all. Keep hope and faith alive! ❤️❤️❤️

      Reply
  6. chimadave says:
    8 years ago

    Well done dearie !!! Keep inspiring us!!! Thank you!! God bless you sweetheart!!

    Reply
    • Ogechi Nwobia says:
      8 years ago

      Thank you love. So much!! ❤️❤️

      Reply
  7. HaroldWrites says:
    8 years ago

    I didn’t see homecoming party venue and date. Kindly edit this post. Please.

    Reply
    • Ogechi Nwobia says:
      8 years ago

      Looool! Throw one for me na

      Reply
  8. Etoya says:
    8 years ago

    Now, you made me cry, thank you for this. Currently running a post graduate program along with raising two kids, far from home and family. My dissertation has already been thrashed and rewritten a zillion times. And my first peer reviewed article got rejected this morning. I have been binge eating all day wondering what’s the worst that could happen if I pack up and quit. I am just too tired. Your testimony has renewed my faith in the Lord that has brought me this far…thank you for all you do. God bless your beautiful heart.

    Reply
    • Ogechi Nwobia says:
      8 years ago

      God bless you too Etoya!
      His strength is made perfect in our weakness. So when we get weary and exhausted, we can always count on Him to strengthen us, sometimes via something as simple as a blogpost. So I’m glad this spoke to you.
      It’s a really rough place you’re in right now. But because you are a Woman Wonder, you will scale through and finish strong.
      Enjoy your binge eating today.
      Tomorrow or even the morrow after that, we can resume the hustle.
      But God is in the midst of you and you will not be moved!
      Love and Light!! ❤️❤️❤️

      Reply
  9. mbukohenrychidi says:
    8 years ago

    Thank you. You pretty much know my struggles. Recently, I fell very very ill and had to use up all I had to treat myself. It affected my business.
    I am still thinking of how to raise back capital or totally forget about the business. But this rekindled my spirit. No kidding. Keep writing and keep uplifting! That is the mandate.
    God bless you.

    Reply
    • Ogechi Nwobia says:
      8 years ago

      Bless you too my dearest! We don’t quit!! We hustle till we win! So stay steadfast, immovable, always abounding in the hustle till we yield good success.

      Reply
  10. Olutayo Fagade says:
    8 years ago

    Nicely done Ug! Great piece!

    Reply
    • Ogechi Nwobia says:
      8 years ago

      Thank you dear!

      Reply
  11. Stella A. says:
    8 years ago

    Wow! Oge, the journey to the zenith has just began, so happy for you dear and Congratulations to you as you flourish and obtain significant attainment in all you do. This piece is such an encouraging one and indeed very timely. I will stay in my process for His grace is sufficient for me. Thanks for sharing dearie!

    Reply
    • Ogechi Nwobia says:
      8 years ago

      Thank you so much Stella. Glad this spoke to you. Stay strong! ❤️

      Reply
  12. Sandra says:
    8 years ago

    My dear am so proud of you jare, I’m hia too staying in my process with my 2nd degree yet to be concluded due to school issues, I had to enrol in another degree plus I decided to enrol in a professional course with all this n your encouraging words I’m stamping my feet and telling myself girl you can do it.

    Reply
    • Ogechi Nwobia says:
      8 years ago

      You can do it Sandra. You really can. You stay persistent and determined and prayerful then watch the results come in. May the Father multiply your efforts and crown it all with good success!! ❤️❤️

      Reply
  13. Princess says:
    8 years ago

    Thank you Oge, this was helpful

    Reply
    • Ogechi Nwobia says:
      8 years ago

      You’re welcome darling

      Reply
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    5 years ago

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    5 years ago

    A big thank you for your article.

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    5 years ago

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    5 years ago

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